2015 was a year full of life lessons and dare I say it…failures! Not failures in the eyes of the public but goals I had personally set for myself, that never made it past the drawing board. The best part about failure though, is the overwhelming desire for success it leaves in your soul…you get so hungry to flourish in all things life that you don’t care how many doors close in your face…because guess what? The right one is going to open…at the right time!
So let’s start off this new year leaving the foolishness behind…leave the doubt, leave the depression, leave the sadness, leave the fake friends, leave that sorry excuse for a man, leave the immaturity…Let’s just do like Bey and toss it all…
TO THE LEFT ! TO THE LEFT!
So here we go…5 Things To Bid Farewell…in 2016.
We all do it…we dream big, set large goals, think extravagant thoughts and then it happens…that little voice in the back of your head, tip toes out of the shadowy corners of your mind, and says “What if you fail?”…”He or she seems good for me but what if this relationship is a mistake?”…”Am I even smart enough to graduate?”…Man, stop…stop it now!! Don’t allow the enemy to make you believe that you don’t have what it takes…because that is a lie from the deepest pits of hell. Do EXACTLY what you want to do, EXACTLY how you want to do it, and do it with complete conviction…100% of the time! This year make it a point to trust yourself and do all the things that you were born to do. Who got the juice? You got the juice. So ACT LIKE IT! You might just surprise yourself…
We have definitely discussed toxic relationships and people before. But just in case y’all forgot what these people look like let me give you a lil list…
5. People who are just ignorant
6. People who only look out for numero uno
7. People who degrade you
We have all had people in our lives like this. But if these people are currently apart of your life please take a moment to explain to me WHY?! Don’t worry I’ll wait…
At some point you have to change up and stop telling yourself ALL of the lies. “I can change him.”…”She doesn’t mean any harm.”…”He won’t do it again.”…Ummm, why won’t he?! People will only do to you what YOU ALLOW THEM TO…Lawd…that’s a word from God if I have ever typed one. THEY.WILL.ONLY.DO.WHAT.YOU.ALLOW.THEM.TO…which means if he knows he can cheat and you gon’ accept him back like you ALWAYS do, then guess what?! Ole boy gon’ be cheating like Keyshia Cole should have. Life is short y’all…and it is too short to surround yourself with people who are not here to elevate you.Start this year off with the mindset that you will never settle for treatment less than you deserve…from ANYONE. It’s okay to love people where they are at…but do that…close the door and love they weak ash from afar!
I cannot even sit here and act like I am not the absolute worst at this y’all…I will put off any and everything until the last minute and will be low as Meek Mill’s self esteem in 2015, when it don’t work out for me. I’ve decided that this is the year for me to stop putting it off. What is “IT”, you ask?!
I am going to stop putting off doing the dishes, exercising, eating right, saving, and taking the necessary steps to becoming the BEST possible version of myself. Technology is the enemy and I become side tracked so quickly by funny vines and my love for gifs…but I need to be DELIVERT! So, I am going to need y’all to bow your heads as we pray this new lifestyle in to existence…
“Lord, I am asking right now for increase…increase in self-control and decrease in Netfilx, father. Bless me with ill fated service so that my pages will not refresheth, oh Lord. You know I am weak and that I need your strength to stay focused. I lay my devices on the altar, for you know I cannot resistith a time line. Grant me the serenity to accept that I cannot jump at every “ding!” of a notification, the courage to moveth away from temptation, and the wisdom to understand that Facebook will be there when I have reached completion….Amend!”
So now y’all can hold me accountable. Ima do right by ’em I swear!
Live. Your. Life. Everyone is going to have their own opinion about the way you live, the way you raise your child, the way you keep your house, your relationship, your job, and everything in between…but this isn’t the movies and we don’t get to trade places and walk in another’s shoes for a day.
Don’t spend another day worrying about how others perceive you and yours. That’s not their business and it’s not your business to care what bothers them. The funny thing is the main ones worried about what’s in your cup are secretly mad because theirs is empty…OOP! Yeah. I said that. It’s true. At the end of the day, why should you care what the next person thinks? Are they feeding you? Are they financing you? (If yes, you may need to reevaluate at least half of what I just said…if no, then please proceed.) If you are happy with who you are cool! If you need to implement a few changes than do that…but do it because you want to. I say all this because at the beginning/end of each day, YOU are the one who has to look yourself in the mirror and love what you see. And you can only do that by being true to yourself. Do you, Boo Boo! Do you!
Fear of Success
At first, this one didn’t make much sense to me at all. Why would someone…why would I…fear everything that I have always wanted? Is it a fear of finally getting there and then failing? Or fear of embarrassment on a monumental level? I am not sure but this issue is real, for so many people. This past year, helped me to realize that I am scared. Scared of how great I can actually be…scared of who I would become when I finally got there. I created a mental wall so high that I convinced myself that there was no way my dreams could become reality…and one day I’d look back on my life with regret. Regretting that I had a chance to make the right moves and squandered it…Sound familiar? It has to change…understand that it’s okay to be afraid of the unknown…But it is not okay to allow your fear TO paralyze you into a futile existence. Let’s make the decision that together we will CONQUER this year and every year after. Do not stop reaching towards your goals and remember not to measure your success by your neighbors. It is different for everyone. For you it may be starting your own business, for the next person it may be finishing that 12 step program, or being an amazing stay at home parent. Whatever it is…
So there you have it…5 things to leave back in 2015. Let’s do it together and boss out of 2016, side by side like…