You Know That’s Your Bestfriend When…

Throughout my life I have had SEVERAL best friends. Kids from the play ground, classmates, and amazing women I grew up with at my church home. Eventually, after new schools, moves, and graduation I drifted apart from most of them…My mother always told me that you will only have one REAL best friend in your life…two if you’re lucky…and I must say she was right! This post is dedicated to our besties. Our female soulmates, ride or die’s, partners in crime, and ace boon coon’s!

We love y’all…so without further ado…

You Know She’s Your Best Friend When…”


She Knows What You’re Thinking Before You Even Speak

When you spend a lot of time with someone you naturally begin to sync up. Your thoughts, interests, agitations, (among other things) start to become the same, and you can literally read that person like the back of your hand. Like out here reading each others mind so hard you can’t even play spades on opposite teams. Bruh, that’s when you know she’s the homie. I swear me and my besties have literally had full conversations by merely exchanging looks…let that female neither one of us fool with walk in and we will be like…

Her: Girl, you see who just walked in?


You: Yeah, I seen her…


Her: Did you see those shoes though?!
You: Yeah, I seen them…

Y’all think I’m playing? If you have a bestie than you already know the deal…the entire convo will be made up of side-eyes and slick glances. Followed by IMMEDIATE screams of laughter. People be looking at us like “What is wrong them?!” && I don’t even blame ’em…The foolery is abundant and the chill is non existent. But there is nothing like facial sign language…believe me.

She is Ready To Go Off On Any and Every One Who Hurts You


I. AM. SO. GUILTY! I have always been the friend with the mouth and will use it quick, fast, and in a hurry if you EVER think you gon’ come for me and mines. My friends will tell you…I have gotten into Twitter wars, Facebook battles, and Phone call show downs with people who THOUGHT they were going to come at bae and carry on with their day. We’ve all done it. The “Don’t come for my best friend” starter pack is as follows:

  • What you NOT gon’ do is…
  • But who she/he talkin’ to though?
  • Is you mad? Haha..yeah, you mad!

Hmm…they gon’ learn today. I don’t care who it is or what happened…if you make my best friend cry…YOU CAN GET IT…if you hurt my best friends feelings…YOU CAN GET IT…if you out here trying to steal my best friend man…YOU CAN GET IT! Especially, when it comes to that weak ash dude they refuse to give up…y’all know the one! There is nothing that irks me more, than seeing a man continuously screw over my best friend. Every time he would walk in the door my mood would change, instantly! Go From…




Real quick. But it is what is…when you down for someone you’re automatically going to have friction with people who don’t have their best interest at heart. Bottom line though…if your bestie don’t have your back like this, you might want to check your receipts…because shawty obviously ain’t for you.

She’s Honest With You Even When You Don’t Want To Hear It

Here’s the thing about REAL friends. We understand that there is a time and place for everything. The time for standing by while your bestie makes a decision, she will surely regret, was when we were teens…and even then if YOU knew better it was your responsibility to enlighten your friends who didn’t. A real friend is going to be honest with you and won’t have you out in the streets looking like boo boo the fool…all because she was too afraid to hurt your feelings. BF’s say things like

  • Boo, them shoes do NOT go with that dress. I am not about to let you step out like that.
  • Blend your eyebrows and contour, please.
  • Aye, bruh…it’s a booger in your nose.
  • You got something in your teeth.
  • He is not going to change and you deserve better.

Some of them sound funny but I swear it’s the truth. If she down for you than she is down through good and bad, fat or skinny, right or wrong…but regardless of the situation she’s not going to let you be outchea embarrassing yourself. That’s a no! no! If you in the clique you represent me and I, you! So we all have to be tip top. If that means me telling you something that you don’t particularly want to hear…Then WELP!


You Can Have Fun Together Doing Absolutely Nothing


There is nothing worse than spending Saturday after Saturday alone, single, and bored. But you can literally sit around and do nothing with your BF and still shake life…In your PJ’s, on the couch, air twerking in the living room (please don’t try to play me like you and your friends have never air twerked…we all have).


Making memories and creating inside jokes that you will laugh about for years, because THAT moment was special for the two of you. Being annoying to “Outsiders” (aka people who aren’t your BF) because you won’t shut up about that one time she fell down the stairs or how she always embarrasses you when your crush walks in the room. Ugh, that is the woorrrsttttt! You’re at the club, he walks in, y’all make eye contact, and you’re trying to play it all cool like…


And she’s next to you smiling from ear to freakin’ ear…making it ridiculously obvious that she is with you when you routinely stalk ALL of his social media pages, fantasize about your future together, and have named all 3 of your future kids/dog like…

“There go your boo…”

Ugh…but that’s why we love them! Together we are funny, weird, goofy, lame, annoying, spoiled, ridiculous, and inseparable. Years will pass…times will change and we still be the same wine guzzling, hysterically laughing, chick flick crying, old biddies we’ve always been.

So if your friendship is like wine and it just gets better with time…hold on to it!

We all need someone to conquer the world with and men suck most days (Just kidding babe lol)…sooooo…hold onto your female soul mates and…


5 Things To Give Up In 2016

2015 was a year full of life lessons and dare I say it…failures! Not failures in the eyes of the public but goals I had personally set for myself, that never made it past the drawing board. The best part about failure though, is the overwhelming desire for success it leaves in your soul…you get so hungry to flourish in all things life that you don’t care how many doors close in your face…because guess what? The right one is going to open…at the right time!

So let’s start off this new year leaving the foolishness behind…leave the doubt, leave the depression, leave the sadness, leave the fake friends, leave that sorry excuse for a man, leave the immaturityLet’s just do like Bey and toss it all…


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So here we go…5 Things To Bid Farewell…in 2016.

Doubting Yourself

We all do it…we dream big, set large goals, think extravagant thoughts and then it happens…that little voice in the back of your head, tip toes out of the shadowy corners of your mind, and says “What if you fail?”…”He or she seems good for me but what if this relationship is a mistake?”…”Am I even smart enough to graduate?”…Man, stop…stop it now!! Don’t allow the enemy to make you believe that you don’t have what it takes…because that is a lie from the deepest pits of hell. Do EXACTLY what you want to do, EXACTLY how you want to do it, and do it with  complete conviction…100% of the time!  This year make it a point to trust yourself and do all the things that you were born to do. Who got the juice? You got the juice. So ACT LIKE IT! You might just surprise yourself…


Toxic People

We have definitely discussed toxic relationships and people before. But just in case y’all forgot what these people look like let me give you a lil list…

1. Liars

2. Cheaters

3. Manipulators

4. Hypocrites

5. People who are just ignorant

6. People who only look out for numero uno

7. People who degrade you

We have all had people in our lives like this. But if these people are currently apart of your life please take a moment to explain to me WHY?! Don’t worry I’ll wait…acc567b49438cebdbf61d6e11d6224b7

At some point you have to  change up and stop telling yourself ALL of the lies. “I can change him.”…”She doesn’t mean any harm.”…”He won’t do it again.”…Ummm, why won’t he?! People will only do to you what YOU ALLOW THEM TO…Lawd…that’s a word from God if I have ever typed one. THEY.WILL.ONLY.DO.WHAT.YOU.ALLOW.THEM.TO…which means if he knows he can cheat and you gon’ accept him back like you ALWAYS do, then guess what?! Ole boy gon’ be cheating like Keyshia Cole should have. Life is short y’all…and it is too short to surround yourself with people who are not here to elevate you.Start this year off with the mindset that you will never settle for treatment less than you deserve…from ANYONE. It’s okay to love people where they are at…but do that…close the door and love they weak ash from afar!



I cannot even sit here and act like I am not the absolute worst at this y’all…I will put off any and everything until the last minute and will be low as Meek Mill’s self esteem in 2015, when it don’t work out for me. I’ve decided that this is the year for me to stop putting it off. What is “IT”, you ask?!



I am going to stop putting off doing the dishes, exercising, eating right, saving, and taking the necessary steps to becoming the BEST possible version of myself.  Technology is the enemy and I become side tracked so quickly by funny vines and my love for gifs…but I need to be DELIVERT! So, I am going to need y’all to bow your heads as we pray this new lifestyle in to existence…

Lord, I am asking right now for increase…increase in self-control and decrease in Netfilx, father. Bless me with ill fated service so that my pages will not refresheth, oh Lord. You know I am weak and that I need your strength to stay focused. I lay my devices on the altar, for you know I cannot resistith a time line. Grant me the serenity to accept that I cannot jump at every “ding!” of a notification, the courage to moveth away from temptation, and the wisdom to understand that Facebook will be there when I have reached completion….Amend!”


So now y’all can hold me accountable. Ima do right by ’em I swear!

People Pleasing

Live. Your. Life. Everyone is going to have their own opinion about the way you live, the way you raise your child, the way you keep your house, your relationship, your job, and everything in between…but this isn’t the movies and we don’t get to trade places and walk in another’s shoes for a day.


See! Harder than you would think, huh?!

Don’t spend another day worrying about how others perceive you and yours. That’s not their business and it’s not your business to care what bothers them. The funny thing is the main ones worried about what’s in your cup are secretly mad because theirs is empty…OOP! Yeah. I said that. It’s true. At the end of the day, why should you care what the next person thinks? Are they feeding you? Are they financing you? (If yes, you may need to reevaluate at least half of what I just said…if no, then please proceed.) If you are happy with who you are cool! If you need to implement a few changes than do that…but do it because you want to. I say all this because at the beginning/end of each day, YOU are the one who has to look yourself in the mirror and love what you see. And you can only do that by being true to yourself. Do you, Boo Boo! Do you!


Fear of Success


 At first, this one didn’t make much sense to me at all. Why would someone…why would I…fear everything that I have always wanted? Is it a fear of finally getting there and then failing? Or fear of embarrassment on a monumental level? I am not sure but this issue is real, for so many people. This past year, helped me to realize that I am scared. Scared of how great I can actually be…scared of who I would become when I finally got there. I created a mental wall so high that I convinced myself that there was no way my dreams could become reality…and one day I’d look back on my life with regret. Regretting that I had a chance to make the right moves and squandered it…Sound familiar? It has to change…understand that it’s okay to be afraid of the unknown…But it is not okay to allow your fear TO paralyze you into a futile existence. Let’s make the decision that together we will CONQUER this year and every year after. Do not stop reaching towards your goals and remember not to measure your success by your neighbors. It is different for everyone. For you it may be starting your own business, for the next person it may be finishing that 12 step program, or being an amazing stay at home parent. Whatever it is…


So there you have it…5 things to leave back in 2015. Let’s do it together and boss out of 2016, side by side like…